NCSF (http://www.ncsfreedom.org/) has a list of "kink aware professionals" on its website. They do list therapists. I can't speak to which of them accept insurance. It's a good list, if incomplete.
societyofjanus.tribe.net/thread/a3ed22c2-6730-4cf7-a794-1567e8bf4a0f#1c827f89-443b-4809-9071-4d9477c79343
